Ever since we became parents of this cute little fireball, there are a lot of questions we have been asking ourselves about parenting - are we doing it right? Are we overdoing or underdoing parenting? Where are we going wrong etc.
Fortunately for us and Aarya, apart from her grandparents (my parents and Bhagya's parents), she has another pair of grandparents whom she affectionately calls Gijja and Pajjibajji, who have guided us a lot about parenting. More than teaching, we have seen their parenting style and feel it's so apt.
They keep reminding us to let our child be fearless, exploratory and curious.
As an example, we went on a trip with another couple, their kids and grandparents. Their little one was almost of Aarya's age, may be a few months older.
We went to a gift shop and both kids were curious about some glass toys. Apart from telling their children to not touch the item, the granny told Aarya that she should not touch it and wanted if she wants wanted, the shipowner won't give it. "Kodalla" was her exact word.
I and Bhagya looked at each other and smiled. Immediately, the same thought crossed our minds that if it was Gijja, he wouldn't have asked Aarya not to touch the toy, instead, he would have let Aarya play with everything in the store, no matter the consequences. If something gets broken, it's OK, and we can pay, but the child should be fearless is what he would say.
In my opinion, kids are a reflection of parents and grandparents. If you don't show confidence in them, if you don't trust them, if you stop them from trying things when they are young, even as infants, they become what you fear about them.
Love and care is understandable, but it shouldn't be hindering their abilities.
As Madonna says.,
Love is a bird, she needs to fly!
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